The other day, we had a big family lunch at my mother’s house. My older brother and mother were casually talking about a distant relative who just graduated university.
Bro: I can’t believe how attached he is to his parents. Every time I see him he is either out with them in a coffee shop or out to dinner .. with his parents.
Mom: I find it cute. Not like you when you were his age.
Bro: Oh when I was his age I couldn’t wait to get away from you .. haha. I just wanted to go out with my friends and explore everything.
Mom: Oh don’t remind me! At that time, there were no mobile phones or anything. I had to look for you from one place to the other just to check that you were safe and ok. See these grey hairs? You’re responsible for more than half of them.
Then I started to think. And the more time I spent thinking, the more I panicked. What am I going to do when my son wants to go and “explore everything”?!
My husband also went through crazy teen years. What if its a gene? OH GOD my son must of got the strong gene from both my bro and DH! Yes now they are responsible adults but not when they were 17 .. Noooo they were anything but responsible. Oh God what am I going to do!
We reached home and DH could see there was something troubling me. He asked me what’s wrong and I told him. He looked at me like a crazy person.
DH: You do realize our son is 5 1/2 years old.
Me: Yes I do. Don’t look at me like that. My concerns are legit.
DH: (laughing) Don’t worry, I don’t think there are any drug dealers in the 1st grade.
Me: (thinking of “Bid Daddy” scene where Sandler was questioning kids in the playground)
DH: So forget about it, we will deal with it when the time comes.
But I couldn’t forget about it.
The next day, my son saw me lying down on the couch as I wasn’t feeling very well. He covered me with my favorite blanket and sat on my lap and asked: Are you ok, my love? (yes my 5 year old son melts my heart and calls me his love).
Me: Yes as long as you’re with me I’m ok.
DS: I will always be with you mama don’t worry.
Me: Always remember that. Even when you’re older and have your drivers license ..
I can see my husband staring at me like a crazy person but I ignored ..
Me: and you go out with your friends .. when you see me calling please pick up your phone and just let me know you’re ok and having fun.
DS: Of course mama! If you want me I will tell my friends to go home and take you out to a restaurant instead.
Me: (wishing that statement will still be true when he is 17) I love you so much .. you’re the best boy in the world!
My husband then hands me his phone with a Google search open. It has the numbers of all psychologists and psychiatrists in the region.
I’m not crazy .. Am I?